Air McNair

Good day everyone.... It's your boy again on the check in. What a week huh? First MJ and then Steve McNair. First off RIP to the both of them they were incredibily talented human beings and both pioneers in their own rights. McNair lead the way by exceeding expectations being that he was the last Black QB that was drafted from a Historically Black college. He was truly ahead of his time and he will be missed. I could go on and on about what Michael Jackson has done for humanity but I believe that speaks for itself. I'm going to write two blogs today after reflecting on everything. First my thoughts on Steve McNair and how he came to his untimely meeting with the maker. Secondly I will write about Michael Jackson and how he also left us far too soon. Some of my opinions you may agree with and some you may not but that's what makes me Ian Jordan Mayes because I don't care about the response I just want to put thoughts out there that I feel are my version of the truth.

So we'll start with Steve McNair. RIP to the soldier it was an event in life that happened far too soon and far too strange. Today it was finally ruled by medical examiners that it was a Murder-Suicide. What a sad ending for the two of them one 20 years old and an independent woman at that who could blame McNair for wanting a woman like that right? Oops did I say woman? I meant girl but she was turning into a woman it sounds like since she was managing her own money I'll give her that hell I'd like that myself but let's get back to the point. No it's not right for McNair to have those desires sure we're all men and we have our hidden desires but I believe that changes when you have 4 sons to take care of that are probably looking for guidance still plus what's even worse was that now they are saying that his wife didn't know about the affair that had been going on for what some believe to be 7 months.(I find that hard to believe)

It looks like Steve McNair's childish ways lead to his demise if you look at the pictures on TMZ.com you can see the boyish grin all over his face as the two are parasailing. I'm not here to bash McNair keep that in mind because I surely believe that there were problems at home but I'm more interested in his behavior as a man and his responsibility being a father and as a man that is much older than his counter part was. Him wanting to show the girl that eventually murdered him the finer things in life lead to his life being cut short and it sounds like he strongarmed her away from her boyfriend whom she was said to be dating until McNair came around and wooed her away with several vacations around the finer spots in America. One thing that will never be solved in all of this is not so much the murder because that seems obvious to me.... The part that wont ever be solved is how much Mechelle McNair really knew of this affair that had been going on. We do know that the house was on the market for 3 million but that isnt enough to really tell whether or not there was a divorce pending which close friends and family say that there wasnt one in place at all. In the end hopefully men take a big lesson in this sad sad story in which two lives came to an end far too soon.

The last point I want to make about this McNair situation is more directed to the NFL or professional athletes in general. If you pay attention to what the coaches and players are saying about Steve McNair its been mostly "Let's not focus on the negativity and let's celebrate his career". That can be understandable to a degree but I think it gives off the wrong idea as it has for a while people think that it's acceptable for athletes to cheat on their wives and it isnt acceptable. If you want to have multiple women in your life so be it... Women are doing the same things but I think when you get married it crosses that line plus its ridiculously expensive to get a divorce when you're living that life just ask MJ and Paul McCartney it gets out of hand. Yes there are vixens out there waiting to take down a man that looks successful and has tons of money but its up to the man to take a deeper look at a woman than maybe her looks maybe its time to take a look at who the woman is connected to and check on her behaviors before diving in head first (no pun intended.) What ended up happening on ESPN was a lot of guys spoke out about what a great man Steve McNair was and he was a great man on the field.... But his personal life had way too many secrets that were dying to be exposed and they eventually were exposed and now his football career and his own life went down in vain in some ways. If the people in the NFL don't eat their words and stop saying he's a great man then does that mean that the NFL condones this type of behavior? It may be important for them to back away from the story and move forward. I think you give the man his just due and appreciate the fact that he was a warrior on the field which he definitely was but it'd be stupid to say that he wasnt already heading down that path near the end of his career he was dodging charges left and right and he was lucky to get away with most of what he got away with. When you let someone continously get away with their poor actions you arent doing them a favor you are doing more harm to them than anything else because they dont get the opportunity to reflect on their behaviors so that they can improve and live to see a better tomorrow and also become a better contributer/role model to society. Just because people don't do the right things in life doesnt mean its a bad thing everyone is human and we all make mistakes. It only becomes the wrong thing when officials start letting things slide based on someones stature in society. Maybe if McNair wouldve been reprimanded correctly a long time ago he would be teaching us life lessons with his words rather than his death.